Alright, Second Chancers, let’s talk about something we’re socially conditioned to overlook: anger. You’ve felt it—that fire-in-your-belly sensation when you’re rejected, underestimated, or told to “calm down.” We live in a society that teaches women to contract, to please, and to prioritize everyone else’s comfort above our truth.
But let’s get real: anger isn’t the problem—suppressing it is.
Your anger is a warning. A wake-up call. It’s telling you that something has to change. The question is: are you listening?
From Frustration to Fuel
I was shocked at what has happened to women’s rights! Our rights are under attack. Whether it’s our liberty, voice, or decisions, the playing field is anything but level. But instead of allowing our fury to suffocate us, we can channel it. Channel it. Make it indestructible.
Step 1: Own Your Anger Without Shame
Anger is not the enemy. It’s the force of boundaries being pushed, dreams being denied, and potential being stifled. Instead of swallowing it, own it. Let it direct you, not define you.
One of my participants in UPROOT, my online class, shared that she was being talked over in meetings. infuriating, right? Instead of ignoring it or questioning herself, we strategized. The next time this happened, she said, “I’d like to finish my point before we move on.” And guess what? They listened. Using your voice even when it feels uncomfortable is a powerful and empowering way to hold a boundary.
Step 2: Get Clear on Your Mission
What makes you angry? Leadership imbalance? The wage gap? Women’s health? You don’t have to fix all of the things—but you do have to pick a lane. Power comes from specificity. Instead of getting bogged down in the sheer size of the problem, I chose to put myself through college to become a social worker. I am currently serving on the board of the Girl Scouts of Colorado. I focused my frustration on making a difference.
Step 3: Stop Waiting for Permission
Nobody is waiting to crown you a leader. If you’re waiting for a title, an invitation, or the “right” moment—stop. The world doesn’t need more waiting for permission from you or anyone else. Your voice is enough. Your ideas are enough. You are enough.
I coached a TEDxCherryCreek speaker who possessed a powerful message but was doubting whether she was “qualified” enough to share it. We made a plan, she took the leap, and now she’s causing waves with her message. The difference between a leader and a bystander? Action.
Step 4: Build Your Power Network
Lone wolves tire. Teams are made by leaders. Surround yourself with women who get it—women who challenge and empower you. A mastermind group, a mentor, or one awesome friend, community is the spark that ignites courage.
I was fortunate enough, in my early twenties, to bond with a group of women 15-20 years older than myself. They are my Sage Moms, lifelong friends, mentors, and now at 80+ years young, still inspire me. Every day, they teach me that we lift each other higher.
Step 5: Take the Action
Big or little, action is what makes the needle turn. Speak up in that meeting. Start the nonprofit. Write the book. Get on the ballot. Whatever it is—do it. Perfection is a trap. Progress is the goal.
I wrote my book “Oh God of Second Chances, Here I Am Again,” because I wanted to share my vulnerability and help others embrace theirs. So write your book. Give your TEDx talk. Volunteer. Make a difference. Only you can do what you’re meant to do.
From Anger to Impact
Women’s anger is a force. When we no longer apologize for it and know how to use it, we cannot be stopped. Leadership isn’t about being without fear—it is about being courageous enough to move forward despite the fear.
So let’s ask the question: What are you going to do with your fire?
The world is waiting. No more second-guessing. No more shrinking. It’s time to lead.
I want to hear from you. What’s one way you’re going to channel your anger into impact? Drop a comment and let’s talk.
